It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yes’s aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

Daniell Koepke 


Leaving is not enough. You must stay gone. Train your heart like a dog. Change the locks even on the house he’s never visited. You lucky, lucky girl. You have an apartment just your size. A bathtub full of tea. A heart the size of Arizona, but not nearly so arid. Don’t wish away your cracked past, your crooked toes, your problems are papier mache puppets you made or bought because the vendor at the market was so compelling you just had to have them. You had to have him. And you did. And now you pull down the bridge between your houses, you make him call before he visits, you take a lover for granted, you take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are magic. Make the first bottle you consume in this place a relic. Place it on whatever altar you fashion with a knife and five cranberries. Don’t lose too much weight. Stupid girls are always trying to disappear as revenge. And you are not stupid. You loved a man with more hands than a parade of beggars, and here you stand. Heart like a four-poster bed. Heart like a canvas. Heart leaking something so strong they can smell it in the street.

Frida Kahlo 


The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

Thomas Merton


"Lie to me like you used to
Tell me everything is how it should be
Lie to me, did you have to?
Because in the end it never matters what I think
And I can barely tell the sky from the shoreline
And I can see myself reflected in your eyes”


― Never Let Me Go (2010)
"We all complete."



Whether you’ve just had a downright bad day or you’re tired from weeks of hard work, you should reward yourself with a pamper evening. Just take a couple hours to yourself to tune out from all your worries and indulge. Here are some steps to have a relaxing pamper evening, enjoy!

Run a bath. If you really hate baths, you can take a shower but most of these steps relate to having a bath so this may not be the article for you. But even if you’re not a huge fan, maybe just try it out again because warm baths are  great and relaxing.

Light some candles. They don’t need to be expensive or anything, they should just light up the bathroom nicely (when you turn off the lights) and set the mood a little. If they smell nice, that’s a massive bonus too!

Add a bath bomb and bubbles. To make it 20 times better, (while the bath water’s still running) add a bath bomb and if you’d like to have a bubble bath you can either get a bubble bar and crumble it or add in some other bubble mixture. For amazing bath items you should visit Lush Cosmetics (you can check out an article I’ve already done on them here).

Wash your face. Take off any make up you have on and wash your face with facial soap or cleanser. This and your bath should cleanse your skin and open up your pores, making your face feel much nicer and possibly clearer.

Get yourself a drink and/or a book. If you’re someone who likes to read in the bath and you’ve practiced the art of reading without getting any of the pages wet, then you can take in a book for your bath. Alternatively, you can also take in a drink for you to enjoy while you relax but be careful about spilling that into the bath as well.

Get some music. You can either plug in a radio or take in your phone and have a playlist of songs to play during the evening. Or, if you’d like to and are very careful, you could possibly take in your phone with some earphones and listen to music that way.

Get in the bath, relax and enjoy!

Use any bath/shower items you wish to use. You can use scrubs to exfoliate and moisturize your skin, shower or bath oils to make your skin super soft, shampoo to obviously wash your hair, conditioner for your hair and anything else you’d like to use.

Get out and get dry. Once you’ve finished soaking away in the bath and have washed your whole body, dry yourself with a soft towel. Some people like to put on their clothes at this point and others just wrap a towel or robe around themselves, it’s your choice really.

Use a face mask and any other skincare products you want. This can include foot scrubs, nail oils, hair masks, lip balms, etc, etc, etc!

Moisturise. This should make your skin feel super soft and prevent it from drying out.

Paint your nails. You can choose whichever colour your feel like and if you want to go for something fancier, there are lots of DIY ideas online.

Hope you all try this out and message us if you did to tell us how you liked it!

- by Mel xx